Brokenness is something that is hidden by most people and for years I did the same. Instead of dealing with that brokenness we cover it up with overworking, over-indulging, drinking too much, drugs, or checking out mentally or emotionally.
I’ve had my share of brokenness and I see it in my family and in those I’m around everyday. I’ve judged myself as less valuable than others. I struggle with internal battles of worry, despondency, stress and judgement of where I’ve been, who I am and who I’m becoming. One of the issues is the constant barrage of media that comes at us, our families and those we’re around. It dulls our senses and obliterates our idea of what is normal and good and healthy.
How often do we see broken people and judge them or look down on them? How often do others do that with us? We seek to avoid pain in any way possible. The stark reality is that life is full of suffering, pain and brokenness. So, do we simply avoid it? Do we simply lay down and give up? The answer is a resounding “NO!” Perhaps we need to reevaluate the way we see and deal with brokenness.
I follow the group “To Write Love On Her Arms“ and it’s opened me up to more positive thinking and that it’s okay to be broken and on the mend. There is brokenness in me and in my family. Instead of avoiding it or acting like it’s not there, I choose to find support and give support in return. Here’s a quote from a fantastic post on TWLOHA that I’ve included a quote from:
So often we think of ourselves in the same way we see objects on the “as-is” shelf in stores, broken and worth less value. But, my friends, you are SO MUCH MORE than an object discarded on a shelf. You are a beautiful creation, worthy and deserving of love and care and hope.
The Japanese culture has a type of pottery called Kintsugi. Cracked pottery is reassembled by filling in the cracks with gold. These pieces end up being worth more than the original, unblemished pieces. The original unbroken vases and pots look alike and evoke little response, but the Kintsugi embody beauty with their uniqueness. These items are no longer just objects, rather they are stories—stories that want to be told, and stories that need to be heard.
So, the question I ask you is “what if we saw ourselves as a human form of Kintsugi?” What if we saw the beauty possible in ourselves and in others, beauty that includes our brokenness? I choose to work toward this for myself, my family and those I am around. How about you?
In my latest book, “YOU, UNLEASHED!: Mastering the Success Mindset, Overcoming Obstacles, and Living a Life That Matters!” I talk about ways that you can overcome your brokenness and become the person you were made to be. Further, you can learn to live your life in a way that it really matters. You can buy a copy by clicking the “Buy Now” at the top of the page.